Preaparing for the big decision

Nowadays, the decision of family expansion i.e. having a baby is not an easy one especially with the so busy  life of people .Its not just a matter of 9 months of pregnancy but before and after it also  . Before pregnancy , the mental make up for the partners as the life is gonna turn around completely and after pregnancy i.e.post delivery , the increased responsibility and joining of the sleepless nights club for few years.

For this both the partners have to prepare themselves mentally and physically. Mentally means the hormones play so much with you that you feel extremes of all types of feeling like extreme disappointment or sadness , happiness or joy etc etc etc . And physically for the female partner to be having so many changes in her body and mind during and post pregnancy and for the male partner to support his better half while she is going through all of it .

For getting ready for becoming parents , both partners need to talk out first that about when they feel is the right time , is the only right time to go for it  and not when the relatives or friends or society tells  you . And not even when your friends plan their baby or your sister does ..No. Its you who should take control of this very life changing decision. Because 'kuch to log kahenge logo ka kaam hai kehna'. So just ignore all the side music and talk out among yourselves . Because finally you will be the one dancing to the tunes of the introduction of this new life in your lives and no one else.

Most importantly  'sab kehne ki baat hai ki kar lo bachha hum paal denge '  , always remember your kid is your own responsibily and no one else's .So always be mentally prepared to do all of your kids and your work by yourself.

Its good if some one like your parents from either side offers to help like staying at your place post delivery to take care of baby or while you go back and join your work place .But best for you and your kid is when you plan out between partners ( husband and wife ) that how are you gonna do all your stuff among yourself and not include a third person to be a caretaker of the baby . Here stuff means all daily chores like food, cleaning, grocery , financials etc etc etc .

Once you have these all things in your head clean and clear , believe me after you have your baby it becomes easy for you to not expect and have a healthy time with your baby .

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